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DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN
02-24-2014, 09:51 PM
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DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN
DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN – put together by female divorce attorneys because all men chirp furiously like birds in the morning flashing their plumage for the sole purpose of getting you into their nests. Women therefore have to look beyond all these sounds and sights in order to get the true measure of the man.

They have to ignore the charming sales pitch and always check the oil dipstick because low or bad oil means bad car no matter how sharp looking the car is. Take it for a spin if you like but don’t buy it.

This is a five point analysis for finding out about men, i.e. are they good, bad or troublesome:

1. Is he Violent or Controlling? Has/does he hit you, scream at you and or physically menace or restrain you? If so run for your life because he doesn’t love you and he can’t. Control isn’t love!

2. Does he use/abuse Drugs or Alcohol and or Smoke or use Tobacco? Even if only casually and or “recreationally” because typically such use/abuse spirals out of control over time. And smoking is included here because tobacco is a gateway drug to other drugs. People who smoke are also addicts and like all addicts are self-medicating for depression and or anxiety disorders which are genetic and so can be passed on to your children. Fact that he smokes, drinks or does drugs doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, it just means he loves you less than his addictions and so he will always put his needs ahead of yours and your children’s if you (God forbid!) have them.

Case Example: Pretty 30 year old married woman with two small children walks into Divorce Lawyer’s office seeking mediation (not divorce) services because she wants to repair her marriage to her husband who was an Attorney himself who smoked cigarettes regularly.

A week earlier her husband fell asleep in his easy chair and unintentionally dropped his lit cigarette which started a fire that burned out the entire living room of their house.

No one was injured but this was a culmination of prior events, i.e. he was always falling asleep at night in his easy chair with a lit cigarette in his mouth despite his wife’s repeated warnings that he needed to stop doing that. It then occurred to this wife that he always just does what he wants to do even if it endangers her and the kids hence her request for mediation.

However the Divorce Lawyer advised against mediation and strongly urged divorce! Shocked the wife asked why because they still loved each other and he was a good father and provider, in fact he never missed work and all their bills were paid.

But the Divorce Lawyer said: “Leopards don’t change their spots!” That is he didn’t just become self-centered and addicted overnight, he was always this way but the wife did not see the signs (the five points) which like oil dipsticks in cars are always there because love is blind, i.e. she was always in denial about him. The Divorce Lawyer predicted that he was not likely to change his

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ways so why wait for the next fire that may be inescapable. Wife needed to put herself and her children first because her husband couldn’t and wouldn’t: “...love, honor and cherish” her.

Wife initially ignored this advice but a week later came back to the Divorce Lawyer and authorized Divorce proceedings against her husband because he was still falling asleep at night in the house with lit cigarettes in his mouth despite the previous fire.

Wife saw the light and divorced him much to his dismay. Being a lawyer himself he aggressively litigated his side of the divorce and custody proceedings but the Court Judge ruled against him citing the best interest of the children evidentiary standard, i.e. not in best interest of kids to be with father who caused house fire with them in it. Therefore all his visitations had to be supervised unless he sought and received psychological counseling for his addictive disorder.

To his credit after the Divorce was finalized he completed long term psychological counseling over a period of years and was able finally to give up cigarette smoking with his physician’s assistance. He is no longer angry at his ex-wife for the Divorce and properly blames himself.
They have each remarried but at least have an amicable relationship regarding their children.

He even has re-established a professional relationship with his ex-wife’s Divorce Lawyer because he finally realized that this Divorce Lawyer had done what he couldn’t and wouldn’t do himself, i.e. put his wife and kids first! Altruism is after all the opposite of solipsism.

3. Is he personality disordered? If so run for your life! There are many kinds of psychological and emotional personality disorders that both men and women have that aren’t always readily apparent but if you pay attention you can see them because in any close or intimate relationship you will experience them! In short if you think or suspect there is something wrong, there is.

The three main personality disorders to watch out for are:

a) Narcissistic Personality Disorder – there is much research on this and profiling by Psychiatrists and Psychologists such as by M. Scott Peck, MD who authored the best seller “People of the Lie” to better understand human evil. Dr. Peck gives several case study examples of his own patients and from there drew a profile for how to recognize these sick personality types. Note there are varying degrees of this Disorder from seemingly minor (passive aggressive cigarette smoker in above example) to very serious (sociopaths).

In short a narcissist is someone who can only ever love himself (or herself), not you or anyone else. They are very dishonest, treacherous and often adulterous and into drugs!

Leonardo DiCaprio & Jonah Hill play two obvious ones in the movie Wolf of Wall Street.

You can’t change them - you can only learn to identify them and stay away!

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b) Latent Homosexual Personality Disorder – in short macho men who are always trying to over compensate for their subconscious doubts about their own sexuality. These guys are almost almost always rude, crude loud mouths who really prefer the company of other men and are often taking unnecessary chances with their life and yours, i.e. driving car too fast because they “know” what they’re doing. They are only going out with you and or marrying you as proof to themselves and others that they’re not gay but they really are. They typically go into police and military professions and often boast openly to others about their sexual conquest of you and have open contempt for real gay men even suspecting other non-macho men of being gay. And while there are troubled men who know they are gay but unfortunately marry a woman anyway living a repressed or double life and so should be avoided by women as long term husband material, the latent homosexual (who is also often times a narcissist to boot) is another kettle of fish that you need to run for your life from.

Case Example: Parents of a beautiful 20 year old daughter came into a Lawyer’s office for advice on her troublesome 24 year old boyfriend who they want to sue for damages. Turns out this boy “friend” convinced their naïve daughter to let him film one of their sex sessions. He claimed to her then it would only ever be for their intimate viewing only.

He lied because soon thereafter he (without her prior permission or consent) posted the film on the internet for his male friends and the whole wide world to see bragging in his typed adjunct narrative to the film that this was his (unnamed) beautiful blonde girlfriend having hard core sex with him. Not surprisingly he doesn’t film his own face in this sexual romp but only hers thereby protecting his privacy all the while expensing hers.

The Lawyer advised that this man is evil like a treacherous pimp and subconsciously gay (because why the need to prove to the world that he was heterosexual?) and so their daughter needs to run for her life but as a practical matter to not bother suing him because it would only attract more attention to the matter and that she should instead just transfer back home from her out of state college and deny she is in the film should anyone ever ask.

c) Miser/Spendthrift Personality Disorders – these men value their money more than their time and are beyond being merely frugal. They really are incapable of enjoying themselves and will make your own life miserable versus the spendthrift who is inclined to live beyond his means spending more than he has on himself and you giving you the illusion of generosity prior to getting the eviction or foreclosure notice. See discussion below on credit reports!

4. Is he generally stupid and or not that bright? As the female of our species you have a gate keeper’s responsibility not to knowingly pass on stupidity or disability (all inheritable traits) to the next generation. Whether a man is bright or not should be readily discernable in your observations and conversations with him over a short period of time provided you are bright

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yourself. For instance, guys who have tattooed their former girlfriend’s name on their body aren’t very bright because they can’t think beyond the present given their smaller brains.

If you want to have children with a man then you want that man to be able to think long term because children and family are long term and so require seeing and planning ahead for future contingencies, i.e. education, habitation, etc. Smart guys can do this, stupid guys can’t.

5. Any Criminal History and Credit Report on him? If you have his full name, birth date and Social Security number you should be able to Google his criminal history or reports of same. And Credit Reports only cost about $75.00 and they’re worth every penny! Because marrying a man is a lot like giving him a job…because marriage is work. Therefore if you would run a credit report on a potential employee or tenant why not for a mate? Credit Reports will show a good or bad credit even bankruptcy history in terms of: has he been paying his bills when they come due? If he hasn’t been then what makes you think he is going to pay your bills when they come due? So go and get the credit report because just taking your girlfriend’s word about him can prove perilous.

Closing Comments:

This Five Point Analysis Test for finding out about men provides a basic platform of observation about personality types that can be and are detrimental to the health and well-being of women. It doesn’t ask questions like is he good in bed, because while very important that’s not an immutable characteristic and so can be a learned behavior with teaching and instruction (one of the few areas where women can change men for the better).

However, a man’s bio-chemistry and personality disorder cannot be changed.

If he farts in bed then it means he doesn’t put your comforts and concerns ahead of his.

So once an addict or an a$$hole: always an addict or an a$$hole (who will never put you first).

The overarching narrative throughout this exercise is spotting dishonesty and liabilities because once children are born women become less mobile and so more vulnerable to detrimental control, poverty and abandonment.
Mutual altruistic love and support are key factors in having a successful marriage or long term relationship and so it behooves women to pay attention to these serious signs or red flags which are always there if you just look for them because an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of divorce or break up cure.

That is open the hood and check out the dipstick.

And take that good looking bad boy for a spin around the block if you like but don’t buy him.
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DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Sonny Laymatina - 02-24-2014 09:51 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 02-25-2014, 06:02 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - cupfactor - 02-26-2014, 05:24 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Howard Roark - 02-25-2014, 09:19 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Abacus - 02-25-2014, 09:29 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - woodcanoe - 02-25-2014, 01:54 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Abacus - 02-25-2014, 03:14 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Jim C - 02-25-2014, 07:00 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Abacus - 02-26-2014, 10:18 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Mike G - 02-25-2014, 07:07 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 02-25-2014, 08:15 PM
Danger signs for men - polguy - 02-25-2014, 08:31 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Mike G - 02-25-2014, 10:08 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 02-26-2014, 06:39 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Mike G - 02-26-2014, 07:50 AM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - woodcanoe - 02-26-2014, 09:42 AM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Abacus - 02-26-2014, 02:45 PM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Jim C - 02-26-2014, 04:45 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 02-26-2014, 07:11 PM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 02-28-2014, 07:12 AM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - BlueJay - 03-01-2014, 11:22 AM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 03-04-2014, 07:13 PM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Islander - 03-05-2014, 07:13 AM
RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Abacus - 03-05-2014, 04:50 PM
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RE: DIPSTICK TEST FOR MEN - Ugene - 03-09-2014, 03:53 PM
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